孩子不听话怎么办

What to do if your child is disobedient?

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作为老师和父母，都想把孩子教育好，有些孩子天生比较听话，这还好。但是如果孩子不听话，那怎么办呢？常见的办法，可能就直接打骂、训斥但是这样一般只会更加激起孩子的逆反心，令他变得更加不听话，想改变也变得更困难。所以，教育这样的孩子，更需要智慧。
As teachers and parents, they all want to educate the children well. Some children are naturally very-well behaved, which is good, but some are not, what shall we do? Common approach might be scolding, rebuking or beating, but this will usually cause the child to rebel and become more disobedient, which makes it even more difficult to change later. Thus, educating such children must be wise.
我们教育这样的孩子，明明知道他不听，但是还要告诉他，我们要轻柔细语地跟他说：“你要这样做……” 但是他还是自以为是，按照他自己的想法做。做了之后就会引发一些不良的后果，让他痛苦，他自己会发觉：“哎呀，错了” 然后会想到：“嗯，刚才大人是这样说的” 。当然他可能也没多大悔改之意。下一次遇到什么事，你又告诉他：“应该这样做……应该这样做……”但是他还是按照他自己的想法做，因为换了一件事情了，他又按照自己的想法去做。这样经过几次，乃至几十次，他慢慢就开始意识到，要听老师、父母的话呀！每次不听话都要倒霉、都要吃苦头，这样他就慢慢地开始改正。
When we educate such children, Although we know that they might not listen, we still need to tell them in a gentle and polite way what they should do.‘you should do like this…’They are probably self-opinionated and do whatever they think, however, when they taste the bad consequences which cause them pain, they will realize, ‘Oh, I was wrong.’ and then will think of what adults have just said. Of course, they probably don’t feel much remorse, nonetheless, when something come up next time, you tell them again, ‘This is how it should be done…’. Because the issues they face might be different, they might just do whatever they think again, however, after several times or even dozens of times, they will slowly become aware of that they should listen to their teachers and parents! Every time they didn’t listen, they got bad luck and suffering. By understanding this, they will listen and correct themselves eventually.
受苦是件好事情啊！受苦会逼着他去改正，没有苦受，他是不会想改正的，所以我们走上正道的人都是被失败和痛苦逼出来的。
Suffering experience is a good thing. It's suffering that pushes him to change and correct himself. He will not change himself without suffering. So, the people who step on the right path are forced out by failure and pain.
教育这样的孩子需要很大的耐心，因为孩子即使改正了，也可能会出现反复，他可能这次改了，但下次，好了伤疤忘了痛，又不听话了，又得吃苦，再来听话。这样反反复复无数次，慢慢地逼着他，一步步地往正确的路上走。
A great amount of patience is needed to educate such children because even if they corrected, they may repeat. They may have changed this time, but they may be disobedient again. They may forget the pain when the wound has healed. They have to bear pains and then come to be obedient. Time after time, they are forced toward the right path gradually.

翻译：梁雪玲
校对：Koala