好孩子养成守则

Guidelines for raising good kids

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——节选自《孝道与念恩》
extracted from 《Filial Piety and Being Grateful》

真正想让我们的孩子好、想让我们的子孙后代好，就要对父母好。
If we really want our children to be good and our descendants to be good, we must be good to our parents.
我们孝顺父母，绝对会子孙昌盛。
We are filial to our parents, and our descendants will definitely prosper.
如果我们忘记了父母，天天把孩子当宝贝一样抱着，你是不会好的，你的孩子也不会有什么出息。
If you forget your parents and hold your child as a baby every day, you will not be good, and your child will not have any promising.
你连自己的父母都忘记了，我们的后代会好吗？他长大了也一样不孝顺你，我们的后代一代不如一代。
You have even forgotten your parents, will your descendants be good? When he grows up, he is also not filial to you. Your future generations will get worse generation from generation.
真正孝顺父母的人，会把父母看得比孩子更重，会把最好吃的给父母吃，而不是给孩子。
People who are really filial to their parents will regard their parents more seriously than their children, and will give them the best food to eat, rather than to their children.
如果我们心里第一念就是父母比孩子重要，那么你的孩子就一定会好，
If our first thought in mind is that the parents are more important than the children, your child will be better.
你都不用太管他，
You don't have to care too much.
衣食住行提供好了，给他足够的发展空间，他自己就会呈现得很好。
As long as you provide enough food, clothing, housing, transportation, and enough space for development, he will present himself well.
太过于溺爱自己的孩子、不管父母的人，你的孩子也不会好。
If you spoil your children too much and pay little attention to your parents，your child will not be well either.
我们对他付出得越多，说不定他到时候越不理你，越不孝顺你了。
The more we give him, the more likely he is to ignore you or become less filial to you.
现在社会上这样的现象太多了，不懂因果，也不懂孝道。
There are too many such phenomena in society, people do not understand cause and effect, nor do they understand filial piety.
中国的孝道文化 主要还是讲感恩。
Chinese culture of filial piety is mainly about gratitude.
因为父母对我们的恩是最大的，
Because our parents have the greatest kindness to us,
如果我们对父母的感恩心都不够强，
if our gratitude to our parents is not strong enough,
比较弱，经常会忘记他们，想不起他们来，那你说对其他人有很大的感恩心，谁都不相信。
relatively weak, often forgetting them, then you say you have a great gratitude to others, no one can believe it.
最大的恩人我们都忘记了，你就是个忘恩负义的人。
When you forget the greatest benefactor of life, you are an ungrateful person.
我们对自己的孩子好，其实也是一种自私的心，是一种动物的本能。
In fact, being good to children is a kind of selfishness, is a kind of animal instinct.
老鼠对自己的孩子都很好啊，人类不能也像动物一样，只知道对自己的孩子好，不知道对父母好，那肯定是一代不如一代。
Mice are also nice to their children, if people, like animals, only care for their children, not for their parents, this will definitely get worse in each generation.

中国文化就是讲恩，感恩念恩，夫妻之间也是讲恩，对父母也是讲恩，
Chinese culture is all about being grateful, recognizing kindness, and repaying that kindness with gratitude, which extends to husband and wife, as well as their parents.

不懂得念恩的人，自己的根就会出问题。
People who do not know how to repay kindness with gratitude, their roots will have problems.

备注
原翻译人：同青
重新翻译：Koala
审稿： Nina