快乐公式

Happiness Formula

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所谓快乐，其实都是痛苦的缓解。这种痛苦的缓解，我们在生活中一天到晚都在体验，因为我们从出生开始，就有很多的苦要去缓解。生下来就饿了、冷了、热了、困了，这是最基本的。
The so-called happiness is actually the relief of pain which we are go through day to night, because there has been a lot of sufferings need to be relieved since our birth,
Once we are born, we feel hungry, cold, hot, and sleepy, this is the most basic.
长大了以后，女孩子喜欢逛街买衣服，看到一件好衣服，如果买得起的话，你立马就去买了，穿上去感觉自己很漂亮，很开心。
Girls like shopping as they grow up. When they see a nice and affordable dress, they will immediately go and buy it and feel pretty and happy in it.
这个所谓的快乐，是因为你的内心发生了一种变化，你的求不得苦得到了缓解——
什么叫求不得苦呢？你贪爱一样东西，很想得到它，但却一直没有得到，就会产生痛苦。回到刚才的例子，如果你对这件衣服没有贪求心，那你穿的时候肯定没有快乐感。
Such so-called happiness is due to a change in your thoughts, and your suffering of not getting what you wanted has been alleviated.
What is the suffering of not getting what is wanted?
It means that you are desperate to get something you covet, but you never get it. It will result in suffering. Back to the example above, if you have no desire for this dress, you definitely won’t feel happy while wearing it.
所以这个快乐来源于贪求心得到了满足，贪求心得到了缓解，觉得穿这件衣服满足了一下你的虚荣心。
So this happiness comes from satisfaction and relief of your desire over greed, as well as the feeling that wearing this dress can meet your vanity.
虚荣心也是一种苦，你希望别人赞叹你、羡慕你，但是没有得到，这也是一种苦，当别人开始羡慕、赞叹你的时候，你的虚荣心就满足了，你觉得是一种快乐。如果你完全没有虚荣心，那别人赞叹你，你就没感觉。
Vanity is also a type of suffering, you desire others to praise you and admire you, but you do not get it. This is also a kind of suffering. When others begin to admire you and praise you, your vanity is satisfied, you take it as a kind of happiness. If you have no vanity at all, then you won't feel it when others praise you.
仔细观察自己，我们一天到晚其实有很多很多的需求，这些需求很多我们自己都不能察觉，都隐藏在心中，得不到满足的时候只能忍受。
If we take a look at ourselves, we actually have a lot of desire throughout the day and night, which we can’t even perceive. They are deeply in our minds. We can only bear them when they are not satisfied.
假设你今天心情不错，也没什么烦恼，你趴在那里，有个很好的按摩师给你按摩背部，你会感觉到很舒服。
Assuming you're in a good mood and have nothing to worry about, you lie in there, and a good massagist is giving you a massage on your back, you will feel very comfortable.
为什么呢？没按摩的时候我们也没觉得苦啊，我明明精力充沛，心情也很好，身体并没有痛苦啊。
Why ? We don’t consider ourselves suffering when we don’t have the massage, I was clearly energetic and in a good mood, There is no physical pain at all.
但是其实你的身体还是有苦的，只不过你忍着。
In fact, your body is still suffering, but you bear it.
只有当按摩你的背部脊柱令你身心放松了以后，你才会感觉到很舒服。
You will feel comfortable and relaxed only when the massage is on your back and cervical spine.
这个舒服，其实是因为你的肌肉已经疲劳了，或者你背部的气脉已经开始有所堵塞了，所以通过按摩，缓解这种痛苦，你才有快乐。
This comfort is actually because your muscles have fatigued or the energy channels and chakras in your back have become clogged.You only feel pleasure with the pain relieved by massages.
如果换一个健康的五六岁的儿童，你去给他按摩这个脊背，他不会感觉到任何快乐，说不定他觉得痛苦。
If you massaged a healthy five- or six-year-old child's back and cervical spine, he would most likely feel pain rather than pleasure.
为什么成年人到了一定的时候去按摩就会快乐呢？是因为你已经开始有“老苦”了，开始老了。
Why do adults feel happy when they get a massage at a certain time?
It's because you've already started to "suffer from aging." You're getting old.
只不过这种苦可能没有那么严重，没有严重到让我们无法生活、无法工作，我们能忍受。我们经常带病工作，带着苦去做事。身体有不舒适，还是坚持。
It's just that this kind of suffering may not be that serious, not so severe that we can't live or work, and we can bear it. We often work while sick and do things with hardships. Not feeling well, but still keep doing.
这并不等于我们没有苦，只是那个苦没有那么严重，没有严重到我们要倒下了。那就太苦了。That doesn't mean we don't have suffering, it's just that suffering isn't so serious enough to cause us to fall down. That would be too much suffering.

这是一个很有意思的心理运作公式，可以放在自己身上仔细地观察我们快乐的本质。只有真正了解了苦乐的本质，我们才有可能得到真正的安乐。
This is an interesting formula describing mental activities, which allows us to look closely at the nature of our happiness. Only by truly understanding the nature of suffering and happiness can we achieve true peace of mind.

修改日期： 2022年3月18号